isn't your prime objective to make them as happy as possible?
Heh, you see, that strikes me as a schema that may be intellectually sharp but wanting in emotional perceptiveness. Part of the problem may be the gender difference. At the risk of shortchanging men, I believe that men are more fetishistic when it comes to the objects of their affections, so that it's less about the idea of wanting to make the other happy, and more like regarding the other as more of an object for one's own happiness. Mind you, I'm not talking about love, but only where no real relationship has been formed and the other is in significant part a projection of one's dreams and lust.
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Re: An Addendum
Date: 2006-01-15 10:58 am (UTC)From:Heh, you see, that strikes me as a schema that may be intellectually sharp but wanting in emotional perceptiveness. Part of the problem may be the gender difference. At the risk of shortchanging men, I believe that men are more fetishistic when it comes to the objects of their affections, so that it's less about the idea of wanting to make the other happy, and more like regarding the other as more of an object for one's own happiness. Mind you, I'm not talking about love, but only where no real relationship has been formed and the other is in significant part a projection of one's dreams and lust.